How Tweaking Your Language Can Change Your Anxiety.
When you talk about anxiety do you often claim it as yours?
What I mean by that is, do you talk about it as if you own it and it’s a thing you can pick up and put in a bag?
At this point, you may think, what is she talking about?
I get it, I felt the same when I first heard and came across this way of thinking, but on reflection, it made a lot of sense.
I used to talk about “My Anxiety” all the time.
My anxiety does this and my anxiety does that and because of my anxiety, I can’t do this.
Do you see what is happening here?
When we use language in this way anxiety becomes a thing in our minds, but it never can be, because we can’t physically pick it up and put it in our handbag.
When we use language in this way we unconsciously allow it to lead to ownership of the anxiety, that we have interpreted as being a thing, but that we can’t put in our bags.
It becomes ours and belongs to us and leads us to think it's who we are. It's part of our personality and when we think of it in this way it becomes very difficult to imagine life without it.
This Anxiety in our minds becomes so big and prominent that we begin to feel that it’s part of us and that there’s no hope of ever having a life without anxiety.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Here’s a little tip on finding your first step to freedom from anxiety.
Language is an expression of how we experience our inner world and it’s incredibly powerful to draw awareness to it.
Changing the way we use language can be the starting point for changing the anxious feelings that we experience.
By changing our narrative to the “the anxious feelings I am experiencing” Instead of “My anxiety” we allow it to change into something very different.
Close your eyes and say these two things out loud and notice how different they feel.
Referring to anxiety as "the anxious feelings I'm experiencing", anxiety becomes less of who we are, and something that we are experiencing.
This way of seeing it allows the experiencer to experience it as something less permanent. Something outside of who they are.
We also know that feelings change all the time, thereby giving our unconscious mind the message that the feelings of anxiety will eventually change too.
Let this way of tweaking your language be the first step to an anxiety-free life.
It may seem like a very small thing and you may think it’s never going to work, but it will make a difference.
It’s a starting point into a new way of experiencing and interpreting what is going on in your mind.
If you would like to take this further and create a new experience for yourself, one that doesn’t include anxious feelings, I’m Kristine and I’m an anxiety specialist.
I help you reclaim your life from anxiety so you can experience the emotional freedom you long for and live a life you love. I work with people online too, so location doesn't matter.
Get in touch by sending me a message or email: email@example.com